BDSM As A Sport?

OK, this is the most lame brained idea I have ever heard. Check out the Denver Sanctuary's latest promotional idea. Having a contest to determine who has the most "extreme scene" at a dungeon party is not only foolish, it's a recipe for disaster. BDSM is not a competition sport, it is a manner of sexual expression. Trying to "out-do" others in the scene creates a false impression that more extreme is better.

In reality, better is subjective and extreme is in the eye of the beholder. Trying to look or be more extreme makes what I consider a deeply personal and spiritual experience a stunt. BDSM is not a stunt and if that's why you are into it, perhaps you'd be better served in dirt bike competitions or skateboarding.

From a strictly safety standpoint it could lead to unsafe play and really bad choices. The Denver Sanctuary should be ashamed. They are going to exploit the inexperience of novices who want to "make a name" for themselves at the risk of life and limb. Moreover, they cheapen what is not just a "lifestyle" but a life to many of us. They promise "bragging rights" for a year after the competition. I suspect those who will brag, will use assumed names or scene names for their bragging, making the title not only hollow, but hypocritical. Enough already!

When you have been in the scene long enough, everyone has had a scene that someone else considers extreme. Fine, that's a subjective opinion but it's not a tribute. The real measure of a BDSM practitioner is the response of their partners. If it's good for both parties, then it was a good scene. Otherwise it's just a sideshow or plain exploitation.

Now I'll get down off my soapbox and get back to having a good time, with people I trust in a safe, sane and consensual manner.